The feeling of being underestimated is sure to be felt at some point in life but you know what, it tends to have it's advantages. Being underestimated can be the fuel you need to light a new, stronger fire inside which will give you the power to go even higher and get things completed.

Having too many expectations in any relationship is a very,very bad thing but whats even worse is having unrealistic expectations of the person you supposedly love. With certain obligations placed on the relationship its very possible to strain it, and strain it pretty quickly (strain is always a bad thing!). The problem lies not with having expectations, but some peoples attempt at having such a perfect relationship, that they tend to put a cage around the love instead of letting it roam free and find its own way. realistic expectations that are mutually agreed upon will always be the best route to take in a healthy relationship (It makes life so much easier).  

 Having 100% devotion to another is no small feat but it is a must, devotion connects half's into a whole and with that connection a deeper meaning of love is found. A relationship that lacks devotion to one another is bound to fail because without it even though they are in each others space they will be experiencing a distance of the heart. Having devotion is love. Also a nice surprise every now and then, to show that significant other that you are thinking about them is never...EVER... a bad thing. Not a single person on this great earth does not want to feel loved and assured that they matter. so surprise one another with a token of your love whatever it may be its the thought that ultimately counts, diamonds can be a plus one also tho. Material objects should NOT define your relationship but like most things they have a time and place. Having devotion is love, so stay devout to the one you love.
 Also know that over analyzing every.. single... little.. thing is a surefire way to have the relationship crumble to pieces in quick fashion, looking for problems even though they do not exist will undoubtedly become a hindrance to any love life. Over analyzing is not love its just really, really annoying.
 With that being said no relationship will ever be perfect, it will without a doubt be a series of crazy ups and downs. Nobody is perfect, and as such expecting a relationship to be smooth sailing the whole way is just not realistic because it takes hard work and commitment toward each other to make it through the rough times that will inevitably come to pass. Love is such a complex thing but once you accept that imperfection is not settling for less the complexities of said love will start to become a bit more practical.

Your positive mindset has to be so ingrained in you that it can never be shaken by negative people nor negative situations. It's up to you to live each day with the type of mindset that you want and not the one outside influences tell you that you should have, these outside influences only seek to penetrate and ultimately destroy your place of peace. In spite of the negativity around you stay positive. Therein lies your true power. Use it to combat the whims of the world by protecting your peace and fending off negativity. 

You have to be yourself in this world and just tune out those people who try to change who you are because honestly they don't have the right to dictate how you should live your life in the first place. You need to live for you, your peace, and your happiness. It's to live your best life in the best way you know how! Know yourself and accept who you are and you can own the world. Be your own person. Live your own life. Seek your own happiness.

Your journey will not look like anyone else's but that's OK because it doesn't have to. Everyone walks a different path toward happiness, and we all have road blocks and pitfalls along the way that tend to make this journey treacherous. But know this your mind and soul are your best weapons to tear the walls from their foundation and cross those pitfalls with confidence. Now I'm not saying it's going to be easy, hell in fact it's going to be down right hard, but it will be worth it in the end. Just remember to never let other people lead you off of your path and onto theirs. Be fearless and unrelenting in the pursuit of your happiness.

Stop letting negative people have a foothold in YOUR life! If a person wants to be a negative influence on your life don't just let them come and go as they please, dismiss them! Your life is way too important to allow negativity to rule over your happiness. Negativity doesn't deserve you! Go where you belong and seek your happiness and sustain your positivity away from the toxic people. Happiness and positivity deserve you and you deserve them!

Reclaim your happiness.

Happiness is a journey! Its going to take a great amount of will to live a happy life and it's within your power to do so if you really want to have lasting positive change in your life. Now sometimes while on this journey of happiness we tend to stop and become stagnant, we easily forget how much action being happy really takes while contending with people,work, money, and life in general. Even in the midst of all these distractions you have to keep going toward YOUR happiness no matter what.You are strong! You will value yourself even more! Its time to focus on your happiness journey.

Never allow a disloyal person to overstay their welcome in your life. If they cannot be bothered to be loyal to you, why would you want them in your sphere? That space should always be reserved for the most loyal of people. Disloyal people are only out for themselves and honestly could care less about what happens to you and your feelings so they tend to step on them whenever it benefits them the most. The best thing you can do for yourself is to just love people like that from a distance! Loyalty is one of the most important things in life. The strongest relationships you will have in this world are formed upon a solid foundation of loyalty. Living your life surrounded by loyal people will allow peace and happiness to be more readily available in your life. Never give too much energy to people who do not deserve it,

Fight for your happiness with everything you have! Nobody has the right to challenge your way of living unless you let them. They cannot even begin to understand your meaning of happiness and self-love so let them know that your happiness is not something easily taken, That you won't let it go without a fight.

A manipulator is the worst type of person as they tend to be selfish to the core, and this can be made even worse in a relationship where people often find themselves being manipulated by things like guilt, insecurities, and doubt. An unreliable/manipulative partner is simply going to be an ex-partner eventually, so why put all that work into something that is going to crumble regardless? Being with a reliable person is a must in any relationship you want to last.

Being with someone you cannot rely on is counter-productive to any type of security you could ever want in a relationship (and who doesn't want security? Right?), it truly goes hand in hand with trust, being in a relationship with a reliable person bring about a deeper connection with your partner you know they will always be there to catch you when you stumble and will always have your back indefinitely.

There is no reason for anyone to have to endure the misery of a spouse while in a relationship. The whole reason for a partnership is to have mutual support, but if one side of the party refuses to even try to eliminate the personal misery they carry, what is the point from staying in a such a relationship? Tolerating a manipulative spouse is not good under any circumstances so don't.

Never forget these few small truths that are actually very BIG.

• Live life the way you want to.
• Love who you want to how you want to.
• Never apologize for being who you are even if it changes by the second. They can either adapt or be removed.
• Accept new opportunities and sudden hardships alike.
• Forgive the past, Love the present, and prepare for the future. 
• Be fearless. Why? Because the only purpose of fear is to drive away all love and happiness in your life. You don't need that type of negativity in your life. 
• Know that you have no need to compare yourself to anyone because you are already a boss.
•  Be genuinely happy for others and make sure that the people you let in your circle are genuinely happy for you too. 
• Remember that a little gratitude goes a long way. 
• Don't let anyone harm your growth in life. You deserve more than that out of life. 
• Self love is your greatest weapon and your most sturdy shield.