Healthy Relationships Are Forged.
|Fight for your relationship! Forge a strong blade for battle!|
Knowing that somebody loves you so completely and utterly should bring some type of tranquility into ones life, this feeling of being loved is almost indescribable in nature and even though relationships have many ups and downs, hell sometimes it can be down right painful, but when everything is said and done a sort of calm should still be present, because in the face of a strong relationship all issues should become irrelevant compared to the love you have for one another.
If this serenity is nowhere to be found within a relationship it may be time to just call it quits because nobody should settle for constant chaos with no end in sight.
No relationship should be forged based on what a person might become, but instead it should be made upon the foundation of what each individual has to offer the relationship in the *present* so that you both may grow together and head toward a bright future. By falling in love with a person's potential one is pretty much casting aside who that person is in the *now* and instead is focusing on what he/she may become in the future and that almost never ends well.
Love is the feeling of being in a state of completion, where nothing else can fill that void in the deepest part of your heart except that one special person, it's not being able to see yourself with anyone else in the world, because without that person you would simply feel empty inside, you can live, but you don't feel complete.
Never fall in love with a person's potential
Selfishness can cause even the strongest relationships to fracture. Nobody wants to be with someone who tends to be so focused on themselves that they cannot see the relationship. That being said, the priorities in a healthy relationship should be the ability to create an environment of caring for one another because its much better to have a person who is willing to share everything with you, go through hard times with you, and love you accordingly.
Listening is a vital part of any relationship, nobody wants to be with someone that does not listen to them. With listening comes understanding and with that problems within the relationship can be addressed and fixed (which is always good while in a relationship of course). Listening and communication go hand in hand and it should be equal so that one partner does not feel overburdened by the other. listening is love.
Love can inspire one to become a better person, to make sacrifices one never thought possible, and the power to conquer so much in life. The power that love has is unlimited, and stretches through time and space. Truly it is the greatest gift ever given to this world. Love is inspiration.
Secrets and lies will eventually destroy a relationship as they tend to build up until they can no longer be contained. Being with someone that truly loves every part of you, there is really no need for any secrets nor lies in any healthy relationship because they should have a foundation of mutual trust. One may be able to get over some lies, but tend to have a type snowball effect and lead bigger ones before its all said and done so its best to just be honest, while having secrets just says that one does not trust their partner with the whole truth...(trust is either 0% or 100% a person cannot trust somebody 50% of the time and expect the relationship to prosper). Love simply doesn't need these two things around it as it tends to be counter productive to happiness in the relationship.
When heading into a potential long term relationship one of the first
steps is to set aside some time to think about mutual goals and put them
into writing. It may be helpful to do this together so both parties can
reflect on each others true desires for the long term.
Sometimes it can be tempting to set to many unrealistic goals that end
up going nowhere and lose sight of the big picture which is a long
Both of your goals should ultimately lead to the betterment of your relationship and life as a whole.
Setting realistic goals in love is often a balancing act of sorts, as it
requires one to have the ability to attain these goals while still
being able to keep a healthy relationship maintained.
No Matter what happened in the past how is it fair to throw that upon the back of the present relationship? All its going to do is struggle under the weight. Its not fair to you nor your partner. The past needs to stay in the past so you can enjoy the present.
When you really stand back and look at love from a distance you will notice that somehow it is both complex and very simple at the same time which i honestly just find amazing.
Be with someone who wants to know how your day went and never let anyone in this world make you feel that you're not good enough, no need to settle for anything less in this life.
More often than not when you enter into a relationship naysayers will begin to pop up, this could be family or friends that one annoying co-worker or neighbor who simply feels the need to butt into something that doesn't necessarily concern them. While having family and friends feel concern for you and your lover is sometimes a good thing some people tend to take it to far and end up literally trying to tear apart the relationship either on purpose or in inadvertently which is not ok.
If you find that while being in a relationship you are unhappy 90% of the time, it is time to reevaluate why you are still with this person, settling for less is one thing but to settle for 90% less is not ever going to be a good thing. The fact is your happiness and the happiness of the other person involved should be paramount and this should be as close to equal as possible. If it can somehow be worked out that is great indeed, but if not happiness with another is right around the corner.
A relationship takes a team effort, if you are in to that type of thing). Let them know that you and your partner do not need the extra input and always remember to stand up for one another AT ALL TIMES! Its YOU and YOUR partners relationship and outside interference needs to be drowned out for the sake of keeping a healthy relationship. if they do not understand after all that well drop them from your life because they only wanted to see you fail regardless.
No relationship will ever be perfect, it will without a doubt be a series of crazy ups and downs. Nobody is perfect, and as such expecting a relationship to be smooth sailing the whole way is just not realistic because it takes hard work and commitment toward each other to make it through the rough times that will inevitably come to pass. Love is such a complex thing but once you accept that imperfection is not settling for less the complexities of said love will start to become a bit more practical.Be with someone who will love you for who you are and yet is always ready to be the support you need as you grow (this goes both ways). Pretty much this will require a strong desire to communicate with one another. No point in being in a relationship without getting and giving some type of support right? Never forget how to love yourself too ok? Remember to BECOME love, learn how to RECEIVE love, and how to also GIVE love.
The little things in relationships matter so much. The simple conversations about nothing, breakfast in bed( who doesn't like breakfast in bed), flowers and surprise gifts are always going to be fun. It doesn't matter if the relationship has been going on for 5 years or 5 months you better believe the little things can create a big impact on the relationship being a happy one.