Love is work but its not a job
Love without a doubt takes a great deal time and work to sustain,
but it should never feel like a job that makes you bend over backwards
for. Love should be a deep feeling for another, unconditional and
authentic in every way.
A relationship is a lot like building a
fire...first you need to gather all the materials
(Patience,Trust,Vulnerability, oh and wood! things like that) and then
you have to build them up in the most efficient way possible to get this
fire going, once that's completed all that's left is that one *spark* to
get the fire going But remember what keeps a fire going and going? You
must continue to pour more materials into it to keep it alive and like
love if you stop feeding the flame of your relationship it will simply
go out.
Of
course being in love is not easy nothing in this life is, even love must be worked at on a daily basis, a work in
progress so to speak. Don't give up on it and it won't give up on you.
simple as that....better yet no its not simple, not at all. Love can be hard.
The thing is change
is inevitable in relationships and you know what that means, LEARN TO
ADAPT hone this skill because it will serve you well forever. When two
people come together over time one of them is bound to change, and being
able to roll with the punches if such a shift should occur is never
going to be a bad thing. Adapt adapt adapt! Love is a willingness to adapt
Words can either be used to mend a person or harm them. Any true
relationship relies on honest communication between two people who
intend to love each other forever, and as such the words you speak can
either bring two people closer or drive a wedge which will ultimately
lead to a bad outcome, so be wise with your words because Love is indeed communication.
Compromise is essential in any relationship that plans on making it into
old age. Overtime most couples will start to realize that certain
differences start to creep up and some type of sacrifice will need to be
made to keep the peace, but these sacrifices should be small in
comparison to the love you have for you partner as such you should never
let any compromise become a strain on the relationship under any
circumstance (never settle for less, settle for mutual happiness), meet
one another in the middle while considering each others personal needs
to keep both parties happy... Love is compromise.
Relationships are all about harmony and as such only when both people
are *happy* can it finally be somewhat harmonious, and even though
disagreements will still pop up from time to time it will be easier for
the relationship to weather them and find a peaceful resolution. If one
side of the equation is feeling less than content with how things are
going the balance is beginning to shift in the wrong direction. It takes
two happy people to forge a happy relationship. Love is harmony.
All great relationships will require a good amount of intimacy and any
relationship without some type of intimacy is most likely doomed to
fail, a nice mix of physical and emotional intimacy will keep you and
your partner happy, but you must be willing to learn from one another
while peering into who your partner really is deep down accepting each
others faults and growing stronger in love because of said acceptance.
Understand that Love is intimacy.
Every relationship has Its fair share of ups and downs right?
Any good relationship has its fair share of ups and downs. But when
those very scales start to tip toward the downs way more often than not
and everything becomes a reason to dip into the pool of negativity the
emotional burden set upon the back of the relationship may just be too
much for it to bear. Constant negativity will cause any partnership to
erode overtime. Now while no real relationship is perfect....nobody
should have to put up with constant negativity and if it cannot be fixed
with communication then it may be time to cut the cord and save
yourself.
As
a couple, progressing in a direction both parties can agree on is a
necessity to any healthy relationship. It serves no purpose for a couple
to come together only to veer in two different directions, as it will
most likely end up hindering the relationship further down the line. So
if you cannot progress with them it might be for the best that you find
someone who is going the same way as you, relationships always work
better when synergy takes place of chaos.
Love is work but its not a job
Love without a doubt takes a great deal time and work to sustain,
but it should never feel like a job that makes you bend over backwards
for. Love should be a deep feeling for another, unconditional and
authentic in every way.
A relationship is a lot like building a
fire...first you need to gather all the materials
(Patience,Trust,Vulnerability, oh and wood! things like that) and then
you have to build them up in the most efficient way possible to get this
fire going, once that's completed all that's left is that one *spark* to
get the fire going But remember what keeps a fire going and going? You
must continue to pour more materials into it to keep it alive and like
love if you stop feeding the flame of your relationship it will simply
go out.
A healthy relationship has no need for petty games, as
such never make him/her feel disrespected, unimportant, or controlled.
Instead make her/him feel loved, important and needed in the
relationship, show the one you love what REAL trust and communication looks like.
Nobody wants to go through a cycle of pain,lies, and betrayal and nobody should!
Love between two people has been and always will be a verb and as such is requires action.
That means both parties need to make it crystal clear just how much
they love one another, honestly if a person is constantly saying that
they love you and no action is taking place (whether it's big or small)
that is just not going to work out.
- A small gesture of love is not to much to ask
Love requires one to simply take action.
